Polyamory Baby Plan Confusion

My wife is trying for a baby with her boyfriend Rant/Vent I'm a bit confused on how to deal with my situation. My wife has been in a relationship for a couple of years now and went through what must've been some very intense NRE. They both fell in love quite deeply and she wouldn't stop talking about him. Even I became good friends with her boyfriend and we hang out often together. I'm still pretty monogamous to her and haven't had much luck dating in the poly scene and gave up a year ago. A few months ago, she decided to move in with him temporarily since she would spend most of her time with him and at his place anyway. I started to miss her and would try to get her to spend more time with me, but she would constantly talk about him when around with me or be on the phone texting him. She came up with the idea of spending a few months living with him so that she could get over the NRE. After spending a few months with him, she told me that she wanted to have a baby with him. We don't have our own child yet. I tried telling her that we could try for our own child, but she is insistent on having one with her boyfriend. She thinks that since she is living with him now, he is her primary partner. So far I have been supportive of her want for having a baby, but they(she and her boyfriend) have started telling other people of their baby plans. They have been together for a while and have their own friends circle who seem common friends. I still feel quite uncomfortable when other people talk about my wife's baby plans around me or ask me how I feel about the whole thing. I've also been missing her quite a lot since she moved in with him, and do spend quite a lot of time at her boyfriend's place. But since they are trying for a baby, they are all over each other most of the time. Watching her do things with him that we haven't done(try for a baby), does make me feel a bit uncomfortable at times. Though I don't say anything to them, since I don't want her to start wanting privacy when I'm around.

A screenshot of a Reddit post describes a man whose wife moved in with her boyfriend and wants to have a baby with him, while calling the boyfriend her primary partner. Beneath the increasingly alarming story is an uncanny wide-eyed smiling face, used as a stunned reaction to the narrator accepting an obviously painful situation.

• @eternalclassic / 19775 2022-09-18